Twins are hard
Twins are hard. I know that now. Two years ago I would have told you twins aren’t any harder than one baby, they just take longer. But the truth is I didn’t know what I was talking about, I’d never had one baby. And now that I do, I know. That was hard. That was scary. I wasn’t able to do a lot of the things a new mom of one normally does. I had a strict schedule that we kept, I couldn’t spend hours laying around with my newborn in my arms without a worry, because there was another newborn who needed me too. Have you ever tried to hold two newborns at once? My guilt was justified, I just didn’t know it then. Little Noa gets held a lot, probably more than she should, but since I am still healing I am justifying my hours of doing nothing except starring at her sweet sleeping face.
I still have twins, obviously, but they aren’t that hard, ok I lie, they are two, and they have a voice, but the amount of fun they bring to our lives makes the hard times worth it.
I’ll always feel a little sad for Noa that she won’t have that built in playmate. I know the girls will love to have her join them when she is big enough, but it will never be the same as what Talia and Jordan have, and I’m not sure there is anything I can do to prevent her from wishing one day, that she too had a twin. Only time will tell.
I know when I had the girls lots of new twin moms read this blog, I’m not sure how many still do. But now more than ever my heart goes out to these women trying to figure out life with newborn twins. If you have a friend who has or is about to have twins, help them in what ever way you can. Bring food, do the dishes, take out the trash, hold a baby, do a load of wash. Be generous with your time if you can and patient with your friendship. Your friend will come around, but it will take time, she’s busy right now.