Twins are hard. I know that now. Two years ago I would have told you twins aren’t any harder than one baby, they just take longer. But the truth is I didn’t know what I was talking about, I’d never had one baby. And now that I do, I know. That was hard. That was scary. I wasn’t able to do a lot of the things a new mom of one normally does. I had a strict schedule that we kept, I couldn’t spend hours laying around with my newborn in my arms without a worry, because there was another newborn who needed me too. Have you ever tried to hold two newborns at once? My guilt was justified, I just didn’t know it then. Little Noa gets held a lot, probably more than she should, but since I am still healing I am justifying my hours of doing nothing except starring at her sweet sleeping face.
I still have twins, obviously, but they aren’t that hard, ok I lie, they are two, and they have a voice, but the amount of fun they bring to our lives makes the hard times worth it.
I’ll always feel a little sad for Noa that she won’t have that built in playmate. I know the girls will love to have her join them when she is big enough, but it will never be the same as what Talia and Jordan have, and I’m not sure there is anything I can do to prevent her from wishing one day, that she too had a twin. Only time will tell.
I know when I had the girls lots of new twin moms read this blog, I’m not sure how many still do. But now more than ever my heart goes out to these women trying to figure out life with newborn twins. If you have a friend who has or is about to have twins, help them in what ever way you can. Bring food, do the dishes, take out the trash, hold a baby, do a load of wash. Be generous with your time if you can and patient with your friendship. Your friend will come around, but it will take time, she’s busy right now.
Talia and Jordan are such big girls, they have opinions and get really involved in make believe these days. They also love any sort of activity that has them accomplish a task in multiple steps. They go to a Montessori based preschool, so maybe it’s having an impact on them, but I love it. Because yesterday they helped me set the table! And they did a great job.
I haven’t noticed any “regression” from Talia and Jordan since Noa came home. They are interested in her but not in her face, they are protective and curious, but most of the time they just forget she’s even there and go about their day. We feel that the best way to integrate her into their lives is not make a big deal out of her presences but rather just let them get use to the changes having an infant it the house will mean. Because they are in school in the morning and come home to nap I get to spend most of the day resting, recovering and spending time with Noa, but when they wake up from their nap I try to let Noa be in her swing so I can focus on the girls. Timing doesn’t always work out but between the afternoon hours and bedtime I have managed to make quality time with the girls a priority each day.
(Written while in the hospital)
Thinking about going home I have good bit of anxiety. I’ve felt guilty the whole time We’ve been away that Talia and Jordan weren’t with us to share the first experiences of a new baby joining our family. Even before I came to the hospital I was beating myself up about not being able to run and play with them like I do when I wasn’t pregnant. And now, at least for a little while I am still pretty immobile from my operation and the girls will have to wait again to really play with mommy.
And to add to the anxiety my post pardon state is making me worry about the world I’ve brought this sweet baby into. The world is not a nice place, Noa has to learn that the hard way just like everyone else. Right now I’m wishing she didn’t, that I could shield her from any evil that might come her way. I can’t, nobody can, we will do everything we can to make child hood as fun as possible for all our children and to prepare them to fend for themselves in a not so perfect world. And maybe in a few weeks I’ll be back to my old self and not worrying about things that aren’t with worrying about.
Watching the playback of this video I really wish some one had told me the helium balloon voice was probably scaring the girls.
I don’t think they were really scared, but they were very mellow. They seamed so unsure about the whole thing. I read about how to make the experience as “normal” as possible, but I think they were just too young to really get it.
They likes looking at her, but enjoyed the gifts they for from her much more.
They said thank you for the gifts Noa gave them and told their nanny she should put her down when she picked the baby up.
I can’t believe we are really a family of five.
Unlike our first snow storm in GA this winter that started with seven hours in the car and two days at my sisters with only the clothes on our back this time around we were snug as a bug in a rug at home.
Tuesday started out with a snow sleet mix in the morning so we all decided to stay home for the day. That night the ice started falling and continued all day Wednesday. Again we stayed home and inside. Wednesday night the icy drops finally turned to snowflakes and coated our little part of the world in a winter wonderland that was just enough to have some fun in.
After being so ill prepared the first time around I bought the girls snow pants and snow boots to have on hand just in case, I’m so glad I did. Even if it’s the only time they wear them it was well worth the money to have for this perfect day. I got it all on super clearance from Lands End and hopefully the pants will still fit them next year since I bought a size up.
We played in the two inches of snow for more than an hour. The girls built a snowman, threw snow balls, ate icicles, made snow angles and jumped off everything they could find.
Back inside we carried on with snow day fun and made hot chocolate with marshmallows and decorated sugar cookies for valentines day.
I’m ok with only having a snow day once a year, it gives us southerners an excuse to pack it full of winter traditions. By mid afternoon all the snow was gone and most of the ice had disappeared. Two days from now it’s going to 60 degrees outside but I know Talia and Jordan will be talking about their Snowmam (how the girls say snowman) with a carrot for a nose for some time to come.
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Ah by self (all by myself), the current theme of the day at our house. Two very independent ladies want to do everything all by there selves. They are getting pretty good at it too. Putting on socks and shoes, cutting food, buckling booster seats, flossing teeth, squirting the lotion in their hands. Most of these activities are done supervised for safety and when they get frustrated I can step in to help. And the lotion can get pretty messy very quickly.
But lately I have been trying to avoid messes as much as possible because cleaning them up is nearly impossible. But I can’t put two year olds on hold. So things are a bit messy and I don’t see that changing anytime soon.
Two is fun, it’s more of a test than an experience. My favorite is when I say yes, but since they assumed the answer would be no the tantrum ensues for no reason at all. Love those little moments.
I definitely won’t be wining any blog awards any time soon. Moments to write these little stories recounting the happenings of our lives are hard to come by. I’m so tired by the time the girls go to bed I don’t even have the energy to get ready for bed myself let alone write coherent dialogue that may some how be interesting or informative.
But I am determined to share the rest of the vacation we took over the holidays with you. We had such a fun time hanging out together and being around our friends. Watching how much the girls enjoyed the company of our friends children was great entertainment. But when you have toddlers and cold weather activities are a necessity. In addition to packing a suitcase of clothes I also packed a bin of activities for the kids to do.
We rode bikes indoors, painted, made beaded necklaces, decorated $1 wood picture frames from Michaels, made crowns for everyone, did some yoga, colored and stickered, had target practice and played with play-doh.
We also baked all kinds of yummy treats, cookies, brownies and muffins. My kids love pouring, mixing and helping break the eggs. Watched a little tv and everyday we took a dip in the heated pool in the back yard. We have two little fishes on our hands.
We also spent some time exposing the attractions near our house. There was a great outlet mall with a fun little playground, a multi purpose entertainment village with another fun playground and several restaurants we visited.
We will be sticking close to home for the next few months. Big changes coming, I can’t wait to see how Talia and Jordan react to a having a baby in their lives. I’m however they take it, it will make us laugh a little, they are the two funniest people I know.
I have a little Instagram problem, I love it. Maybe even obsessed. I love posting pictures of my days and reading the comments followers make. I love all the amazing things the people I follow post. Some of my favorite IGers are oh joy, bleubird, babiekins magazine, dwell studio, Kirsten Rickert and Anna Spiro. I usually post images on the days I spend with the family. Not as much when I’m working, the way I see it pictures in pjs jumping on the couch get old. Most of the posts above are from our recent trip to the gulf. More details on Destin and the amazing home we rented to come. The thing about this stage in the girls is that the pictures don’t do our days justice, it’s what the girls say and how they say it that makes us melt a little more each day. Check out the YouTube channel for recent videos.
I have always been crafty and handy. As a kid I would take apart my dad’s model cars and put them back together. I loved Legos and every type of art. I loved helping in the yard, I even grew tomatoes with the seeds from a tomato my mom was cutting for dinner salads. I never actually ate the tomatoes because this was before I liked them.
As I got older I got very confident with installing shelving and curtains in each if the places I lived. I even made my sister a window valence and could put together kit furniture in minutes.
Now that I am a real adult my taste in furniture has changed but I just can’t justify the thousands of dollars good looking furniture costs, especially when it’s not exactly what I want.
For a few years I have been following Shanty to Chic blog, these talented ladies take inspiration from pottery barn and Restoration Hardwear and with the help of plans from Ana White, build beautiful inexpensive real wood furniture and accessories for every room in their house.
I can’t wait to have the time to do these kind of projects around our house and involve the girls when they get a little older. Until now they are really good helpers in the kitchen, assembling small items and changing batteries.
30 weeks pregnant + twins + physically exhausting job = little to no blogging. I love blogging, I love keeping you all up to date on my sweet girls and what our family is up to, but I can’t seem to get my thoughts and photos organized enough to make it happen before I fall asleep as often as I use to.
I feel great for the most part, far better than I did at the same point in my first pregnancy. It’s not constantly on my mind, but I am quickly reminded of the baby growing in my lap when I try to stand, pick up toys or move through a reasonable size space that I no longer fit in. I have gained 24 pounds so far, that’s really the max and I still have two months to go, eek. People are so nice they say things like “you are all baby”, “you don’t even look pregnant aside form you belly”. Really? Because I saw my rear today, NOT PRETTY. I am so not into the pregnancy fatness this time around, and I was twice the size last time! Baby girl kicks away all day long and goes for a swim around 10 each night, I wonder if that has anything to do with the ice cream and chocolate I eat right before I go to bed?
I have all these little bits of fun things that I want to share, but I feel so behind in sharing and the girls keep doing new crazy things every day I just can’t keep up. Their communication amazes us daily. They have all these little fun things they say. Like “Plenty” what two year old says plenty when she has more than she can hold of anything (Jordan) or “hind you me” when something is behind her (Jordan). Talia uses her communication to clarify what she does and does not want “not my cup” if the cup of milk I hand her is anything but blue. “Close it” when I am not moving fast enough while changing her diaper, “more lovey” when one is just not enough. “What’s ‘dis called” When She doesn’t know the name for something.
They still don’t sleep all the way through the night most nights and now Talia has learned how to climb from her crib to Jordans’, head first, of course. While away for the Thanksgiving holiday the girls learned how to climb in and out of their portable cribs which sit much lower to the ground than the ones they have at home. I knew this was the first step to the end of the crib. Which I’m fine with, since half the time they end up in our bed anyway. At least if they are in toddler beds they can come in my room themselves without me having to get out of bed to go get them. And, I LOVE their toddler beds, which have been patiently waiting in the basement since before they were born. Our doctor recommended that if they climb out of their crib to just put them back in, if they fall on their head they will probably only do it once.
They are the most loving little people, they love to snuggle and hug and I could kiss and squeeze them all day long.
More of my ramblings later and maybe a coherent helpful post someday too.
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