Three weeks in I am starting to feel more like myself again. I can move around almost as good as I could before I was pregnant although I have to keep reminding myself to take it easy because I get tired very quickly. Despite the fact that Noa is great at night, she eats and goes back to sleep in about 30-45 minutes. 5 or 6 hours of sleep a night is wearing on me. I try to get a nap in when ever I can but it dosent always happen. Otherwise she’s a good baby, eats good, is starting to “play”, and loves it when I sing to her. She has her moments of frustration with that painful newborn screaming, like almost every time she gets her diaper changed. And other times she is as peaceful as can be and She’s getting bigger by the minute.
Talia and Jordan are sleeping fairly well, thankfully. It’s been several nights since one or both have ended up in our bed. I’m sure I’ll regret uttering that statement tomorrow. Someone usually wakes up and calls for us in the middle of the night, but a big hug and a quite song usually sends them back to sleep in minutes. So I am mentally preparing myself for another few years of sleep deprivation and the forgetfulness and lack of patience that comes with it.
Baby Noa hasn’t changed the girls behavior all that much, she dosent impact there lives really, at least not yet. I can’t always go to them like I use to be able to, but I do my best to talk them through boo boos or a frustrating task. For the most part they go about being busy toddlers pretending and playing. And telling me, “we just need to play a little bit” when I tell them it’s time to come inside for dinner.
Twins are hard. I know that now. Two years ago I would have told you twins aren’t any harder than one baby, they just take longer. But the truth is I didn’t know what I was talking about, I’d never had one baby. And now that I do, I know. That was hard. That was scary. I wasn’t able to do a lot of the things a new mom of one normally does. I had a strict schedule that we kept, I couldn’t spend hours laying around with my newborn in my arms without a worry, because there was another newborn who needed me too. Have you ever tried to hold two newborns at once? My guilt was justified, I just didn’t know it then. Little Noa gets held a lot, probably more than she should, but since I am still healing I am justifying my hours of doing nothing except starring at her sweet sleeping face.
I still have twins, obviously, but they aren’t that hard, ok I lie, they are two, and they have a voice, but the amount of fun they bring to our lives makes the hard times worth it.
I’ll always feel a little sad for Noa that she won’t have that built in playmate. I know the girls will love to have her join them when she is big enough, but it will never be the same as what Talia and Jordan have, and I’m not sure there is anything I can do to prevent her from wishing one day, that she too had a twin. Only time will tell.
I know when I had the girls lots of new twin moms read this blog, I’m not sure how many still do. But now more than ever my heart goes out to these women trying to figure out life with newborn twins. If you have a friend who has or is about to have twins, help them in what ever way you can. Bring food, do the dishes, take out the trash, hold a baby, do a load of wash. Be generous with your time if you can and patient with your friendship. Your friend will come around, but it will take time, she’s busy right now.
Talia and Jordan are such big girls, they have opinions and get really involved in make believe these days. They also love any sort of activity that has them accomplish a task in multiple steps. They go to a Montessori based preschool, so maybe it’s having an impact on them, but I love it. Because yesterday they helped me set the table! And they did a great job.
I haven’t noticed any “regression” from Talia and Jordan since Noa came home. They are interested in her but not in her face, they are protective and curious, but most of the time they just forget she’s even there and go about their day. We feel that the best way to integrate her into their lives is not make a big deal out of her presences but rather just let them get use to the changes having an infant it the house will mean. Because they are in school in the morning and come home to nap I get to spend most of the day resting, recovering and spending time with Noa, but when they wake up from their nap I try to let Noa be in her swing so I can focus on the girls. Timing doesn’t always work out but between the afternoon hours and bedtime I have managed to make quality time with the girls a priority each day.
Watching the playback of this video I really wish some one had told me the helium balloon voice was probably scaring the girls.
I don’t think they were really scared, but they were very mellow. They seamed so unsure about the whole thing. I read about how to make the experience as “normal” as possible, but I think they were just too young to really get it.
They likes looking at her, but enjoyed the gifts they for from her much more.
They said thank you for the gifts Noa gave them and told their nanny she should put her down when she picked the baby up.
I can’t believe we are really a family of five.
Unlike our first snow storm in GA this winter that started with seven hours in the car and two days at my sisters with only the clothes on our back this time around we were snug as a bug in a rug at home.
Tuesday started out with a snow sleet mix in the morning so we all decided to stay home for the day. That night the ice started falling and continued all day Wednesday. Again we stayed home and inside. Wednesday night the icy drops finally turned to snowflakes and coated our little part of the world in a winter wonderland that was just enough to have some fun in.
After being so ill prepared the first time around I bought the girls snow pants and snow boots to have on hand just in case, I’m so glad I did. Even if it’s the only time they wear them it was well worth the money to have for this perfect day. I got it all on super clearance from Lands End and hopefully the pants will still fit them next year since I bought a size up.
We played in the two inches of snow for more than an hour. The girls built a snowman, threw snow balls, ate icicles, made snow angles and jumped off everything they could find.
Back inside we carried on with snow day fun and made hot chocolate with marshmallows and decorated sugar cookies for valentines day.
I’m ok with only having a snow day once a year, it gives us southerners an excuse to pack it full of winter traditions. By mid afternoon all the snow was gone and most of the ice had disappeared. Two days from now it’s going to 60 degrees outside but I know Talia and Jordan will be talking about their Snowmam (how the girls say snowman) with a carrot for a nose for some time to come.
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I had high hopes of a cute toddler plus baby maternity series, but my girls are not exactly into siting still, following directions or looking in the same direction happily at the same time. So this is the best I could get. Maybe I will use this as my first of weekly post of toddlers and a baby. Just what I need another project!
35 weeks and 5 days pregnant to be exact, my belly is heavy and big and hard. It no longer gives when I bend or turn. It’s just there stopping any and every movement I try to make. Baby girl is moving around a bunch, way more than the twins did, so much so that I though something was wrong because the movements at one pint were so dramatic. But the Dr. says any movement is a good thing. Being pregnant with one is a whole other ball game than being pregnant with two, I would almost say it’s easy, comparatively. I am not a big fan of being pregnant, one or two. I don’t like being restricted in food or movement. But I can move a thousand times better now than I could at the same point in my pregnancy with the girls and I don’t have any of the uncomfortable symptoms I had last time. All that being said, I’m done. I know the longer baby cooks the better but Talia and Jordan were born one week after the point I am now, so if baby girl comes early, I’m sure everything will be just fine, and I’d be just fine with it.
I am scheduled to have a cesarean section on February 17th. My Dr. did not give me another option for delivery since I had a c-section with the girls. And I confidently chose to stick with the her because I felt she did such a great job the first time around rather that looking into other options. It was a little strange to choose my baby’s birthday, I chose not to have her on February 14th, I don’t think she would have liked to share her birthday with a Hallmark holiday especially when she becomes a teenager, but if she dose then it’s close enough that we can have a valentines themed birthday and a heart shaped cake every year.
Thank you to the incredibly talented photographer and styling team, who made these photos of this special time in my life possible, I can’t thank you all enough. I adore how they turned out.
Christmas is a favorite time of ours to take a trip. We don’t actually celebrate the holiday but we still get the day off. My husbands business is very busy up until the Christmas holiday so as soon as Christmas eve arrives things slow down and we can take off as a family to anything we like for as long as my job will let me be away. This year we decided to go back to Destin, Florida, we went last year as well. And while last year wasn’t exactly our ideal vacation we did things a little differently this time. Last year we stayed in a hotel at a resort for two nights then drove to visit with friends in Alabama. This year we stayed for over a week in a rented house.
The house was a perfect rental for the four families with seven kids between them that shared it. Six bedrooms, five and a half baths, golf cart, heated pool, great neighborhood, walking distance to the beach and close to great shopping. I loved this house so much I felt like I needed to send the owners a gift for letting us stay there!
It wasn’t warm on the gulfs edge but it was warmer than in Atlanta. We were able to spend some time on the beach playing in the sand. The girls were so cute digging and jumping and running through the beautiful white sands of the beach. It was so fine and white it looks a little like snow, but I’ll take sand over snow any day. One of the spots we visited was the Crab Trap restaurant which had a great playground structure right on the sand.
The girls had a great time playing with the other kids we vacationed with. They got to stay up late, sleep in and sit at the eat at bar for most of their meals. There was plenty of down time indoors so I brought an arsenal of indoor activities to keep kids entertained. And the pool heated to bath tub temps was a great way to spend chilly mornings. Look out for more photos to come.
I have a little Instagram problem, I love it. Maybe even obsessed. I love posting pictures of my days and reading the comments followers make. I love all the amazing things the people I follow post. Some of my favorite IGers are oh joy, bleubird, babiekins magazine, dwell studio, Kirsten Rickert and Anna Spiro. I usually post images on the days I spend with the family. Not as much when I’m working, the way I see it pictures in pjs jumping on the couch get old. Most of the posts above are from our recent trip to the gulf. More details on Destin and the amazing home we rented to come. The thing about this stage in the girls is that the pictures don’t do our days justice, it’s what the girls say and how they say it that makes us melt a little more each day. Check out the YouTube channel for recent videos.
This Past week was the tri-fecta of celebration in our would. It snuck up on me and for yet another year I felt ill prepared for most of it. First, there was Wednesday, not only the first night of Chanukah, but it was also my Birthday, so their were two sets of candles to light. I’m not a big birthday person I just enjoy being with family and the guarantee of cake that I will enjoy. With Thursday brought the second night of Chanukah and of course, Thanksgiving. While there are no candles for Thanksgiving the combination of the two holidays, dubbed Thanksgivakkah, which I don’t really like as a name because I cant spell or pronounce it very well, made for a very festive day all around. And Friday, the third night of Chanukah also meant we celebrated Shabbat, which in our family is like a mini Thanksgiving each week.
Talia and Jordan have been learning about Chanukah at school, from myself and their nanny for the past couple of weeks. They were pretty familiar with all the important aspects of the holiday by the time wednesday came around. And it really only took one night for them to learn that after candles comes gifts. Their excitement for opening presents almost makes you feel that extravagant gifts would be worth it, almost. Talia and Jordan get mostly small things , stickers, books, etc. My parents give them some toys and my husband parents bought them tri-cycles, but these two have pretty much everything, so we try to keep it low key.
Our Thanksgiving traditions have changed over the years. When I was very young we would travel to Atlanta from North Carolina every year to spend the holiday with my Mom brothers family. In our college years making this trip as a family became impossible with school and studying schedules so we would spend the holiday with my Dads family locally in North Carolina. For the past half decade we have been spending the holiday at a lake house outside of Atlanta. It’s easier for all of us with the little ones to be in one place where they can all play together and be a little free outside. We are usually joined by some extended family and friends for the main event. My favorite part of Thanksgiving is our dinner service schedule, we do appetizers at 1pm, supper at 4pm and desert at 6pm. The amount of food we are capable of consuming by spreading out the courses over the whole day is quite remarkable. Kudos to my sister for starting this tradition.
And now my favorite holiday (Thanksgiving, just to clarify) has come and gone. These days I always think about what next year at this time will be like in comparison. For one, I will have a 9 month old, my other sister will be here with her family (they take turns with us and the in-laws) and who knows what else the next year will bring, I am thankful for the good that I know is coming and for the surprises that await.